Sensual Massage Therapy 

Frequently Asked Questions

Read this before contacting me to make an appointment!

Asking for help isn’t easy, especially when it comes to something as personal as your sex life…

Sexual healing is the overlooked and widely misunderstood path of the spiritual warrior, those tenacious, open-hearted souls willing to love their most vulnerable parts, embrace their sexual shadow, and risk the potentially devastating consequences of exposing them to another.

Readiness for this work often takes decades, as we are rarely, if ever, are encouraged to investigate at our sex lives to find the root—and solution—to what keeps us stuck in insecurity and destructive relationship patterns.

Transforming what holds us back from transcendent orgasms and secure relationships requires emotional maturity, the courage to euthanize personas we’ve created to survive, and unwavering devotion to transformation, even if it feels disorienting and downright terrifying.

Not to mention, working with me requires a signficant investment of time, vulnerability, and money.

There is no “quick fix” or instant gratification on this path, and that is what makes it so deeply satisfying and transformative.

But sexual healing isn’t for the faint of heart.

To best gauge where you are, all new clients are required to read the FAQs and Booking Policies and Procedures blogs. Consider these self-assessment tools designed to help you identify where you are on your personal growth journey and provide a rubric for determining readiness to engage in sex therapy.

  • With nearly two decades experience in the San Francisco Bay Area, Nevada, and, more recently, San Diego and Orange Counties, I've been blessed to do this sacred work with people from all over the world.

    The brave and beautiful souls called to work with me are among all racial, cultural, religious, and professional demographics. The main pre-requisite is your readiness to embark on the journey toward self-actualization with steadfast dedication, integrity, and commitment to staying with the process.

    The willingness to take full responsibility for yourself is also essential to success. Spiritual Anarchy isn't for lightweights!

    My individual coaching and erotic mindfulness sessions are offered to both men and women, as are my classes.

    Couples workshops are provided to any two people who identify as partners and are likewise equally dedicated to showing up wholeheartedly and committed to the work.

    Most of my clients have experienced sexual trauma or emotional betrayal, whether as adults or children, ranging from incest to sexual assault to emotional abusive or cheating partners. Others are rediscovering themselves after divorce, death of a spouse, or major milestone. Most are seeking to heal unhealthy behaviors, such as porn addiction, substance abuse, chronic infidelity, insecure attachment, sex worker dependency/sex addiction, and intimacy challenges due to betrayal.

    My approach ncorporates the emotional, psychological, and physical manifestations related to the above, such as ED, PE, numbness, inability to reach orgasm, and attachment-related emotional blocks.

    The best way to gauge our compatibility is to schedule a 30-min consult to get a feel for my style and answers to questions not addressed here.

  • If you are uncertain about how to discuss coaching with your partner, please submit an inquiry that explains your situation. I don’t see couples without the consent and full participation of both parties.

  • I offer Sensual Massage therapy in Oceanside, minutes from Carlsbad, San Marcos, and Vista. If you prefer I come to you, I travel to Orange County and throughout San Diego. (Travel fees apply).

    Couple’s sessions and classes are offered in South Oceanside and Poway, at a wellness center.

    I serve clients from all over San Diego including Carlsbad, Cardiff, San Marco, and north San Diego county. San Clemente and Dana Point residents have an easy drive to my studio as well.

  • Erotic mindfulness is a transformative practice wherein erotic energy is harnassed as a catalyst for increasing self-awareness, releasing trauma, and creating an unconditionally loving and compassionate relationship with oneself as the foundation for healthy sexuality and intimacy.

    When practiced solo, erotic mindfulness is a form of sensual self-care and opportunity to meet ourself with curiosity and openness, increase self-awareness, build confidence, and release trauma stuck in the physical and energetic body.

    Taking time to nourish ourself sensually is a way to honor our own divinity and connect with our "Jing," the energy that fuels our sexuality, so we may learn how preserve and cultivate it consciously for optimal wellbeing, healthy boundaries, and functional relationships.

    When explored with a partner, erotic mindfulness is a tool to build intimacy, trust, and open pathways to pleasure and higher consciousness in an image relationship. Practicing erotic mindfulness teaches us how to give and receive wholeheartedly, listen and communicate effectively, and notice when we dissociate or numb out during sex.

    Erotic mindfulness reveals our deepest needs and desires for safety and connection and teaches us how to ask for and receive what allows us to feel safe and empowered in our intimate life.